By Kim Allen, Guest Blogger
I have a confession to make: I used to be the ‘Queen of Everything.” (I know I am not the only one out there!) I was the queen of my beautiful Victorian home, the queen of renovations of said home, the queen of my gardens and yard, the queen of single motherhood. I was the queen of my organized classroom, of parent contacts and conferences, committees, volunteering and weekend children’s activities. And boy, was I the queen of EVERY holiday, especially (but not limited to) Christmas, replete with inside and outside over-the-top decorations, themed and color-coordinated.
I rarely went to the doctor, even knowing that hypertension, high cholesterol, heart disease and heart anomalies run in my family. I even had several situational periods of elevated blood pressure in my own health history. I KNEW this! I was so busy being THE QUEEN I ignored my own health. I was not proactive, even when a summertime check-up showed my blood pressure had risen to ‘borderline’ levels. Rather than continuing to monitor myself (with my accurate home machine!), and scheduling follow-up doctor visits, I continued at my ‘royal’ break-neck pace.
Thus, one morning in mid-December 2009 (with long day and late night holiday queenly perfectionism is full swing!), I awoke with an odd brownish splat in my right eye. Did I go to the doctor? No, of course not! It was the day of a major holiday event at my school, and I was the organizer, naturally! By afternoon, the splat had expanded and completely blocked the vision in my eye.
After numerous tests, it was determined that I had had a type of eye stroke; the optic nerve had hemorrhaged or ruptured. There is no operation or therapy that can rejuvenate the optic nerve. I am permanently blind in one eye, sadly, my dominant eye. Thankfully, the other eye is still healthy, but the complexity of neural connections is lacking. Where my visual field was once a full royal banquet, my perceptions are now more like a puny snack.
So, I am here to tell you: Strokes happen! Even to apparently ‘healthy’ people. Numerous studies suggest that stress, particularly for women, increases your risk of stroke. In addition, women have a greater chance of dying from stroke. Of the 133, 000 people who die from stroke a year, 60% are women. Naturally, family history, blood pressure, diet and level of exercise are important factors.
But Sisters, I implore you, relinquish the crown, abdicate the throne of perfectionism, and take charge of your health. Educate yourself about heart health, and don’t ignore the warning signs. Make time for yourself, and check your numbers, especially blood pressure. Make time for consistent cardio activity, for doctor appointments, and for enjoyable, relaxing endeavors. Life is short, and you will want to be as healthy as possible for as long as possible.
You can join Kim at the Southern NJ Spring Heart Walk on Saturday, May 20, 2017 where she will share her story with thousands of local residents “Heartwalking” for heart and brain health. Visit www.SNJSpringHW.org for more information.
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